The New Resolutions

It has come up twice now and I have decided that I should take my own advice in this matter.

A few days I ago I turned to a fellow associate, we discuss philosophical things at work from time to time, and I said "Next year I want you to say 'Happy New Year" to a stranger everyday.' The premise of telling someone that you don't know to have a happy new year is that you simply remind them that everyday is a new year. I think that it flows better then everyday is the first day of the rest of your life.

So, in this blog I plan to write a lesson that I learned that day or in the previous day, or a choice that I made to progress. The hopes are that someone will stumble on to this blog and the lesson will speak to them and a change will be made. Making it an everyday habit tends to be difficult, so if you enjoy what you read let me know about it, the more response the more I am likely to feel compelled to continue.

This morning I found myself exceedingly upset about how I have been rejected lately. Not that I got rejected, it happens. But the fact that people really just glaze over things without actually discussing the matter. How can a person be expected to learn who they are if there is no actual feedback from other people?

Truly there are nice ways of saying things that are very rude, and you should not avoid them at all costs, you should talk about them to people that want the truth. The truth does hurt sometimes but lies never get anyone anywhere. Seriously I have been turned down by many women with this seemingly original line 'Yeah I would date you, you are a great guy, but I just got of a long term relationship and I don't want to date right now.'

Well this sounds disingenuous if the person being rejected can remember things for more then 12 hours. I am blessed with the curse of remembering information when it become applicable. This wonderful gift allows me to remember things like what they said a few days before, I normally find out via convo with the people that they are single and looking before I ask. Most after the fact things are things I see later on while talking to them online.

The fact is that I am pretty sure that no one is outright apposed to dating completely, they want the right person.

This is where I and society clash, I remember tales of dating where men and women went out and tied to see if they liked each other, now I have yet to see this as a possibility. Why is it that the line "Wanna Fuck?" has a one and ten odds at a bar, when "would you like to go somewhere to talk?" rarely works?

So what I am hoping that people talk to other people, mostly agree to a date in a quite public place and chit chat, learn about yourself and someone that has show interest in you. Do you really want the person that has tons of meaningless sex?

-NK