The fragile art of the formation of trust, is degrading the way people communicate. Here is the vicious cycle as I see it. Person 1 tells person 2 something important. Person 2 merits the information as something that is casual and tells all of his/her friends. Person 1 is hurt by this betrayal of trust. Person 3 comes along, this person could be a great person, but person 1 is so damaged by what person 2 did to them that they can not place trust into person 3. Person 1 gets to a point where they need to trust someone, and they make a rash choice in picking someone, and the cycle continues.
In this cycle I see person 1 at fault twice. First, they chose someone that was either not to be trusted, or they communicated in a manner that made the information seem common place, different people view things differently. Secondly, person 1 is allowing actions done by person 2 to judge person 3; this means that person 1 is making another wrong choice, they have chosen to hold others accountable for their actions and base judgments on that fact. The betrayal of trust means that a person should place higher standards on who they trust, they should not stop trusting everyone.
Repeatedly being betrayed strains the ability of trusting anyone, I have done it before. I learned that there are things you say to some people that you do not to others, if you want it to remain a private thing. If you find yourself needing to discuss something that you want to keep secret then I suggest you talk with a therapist or your primary care physician. They have sworn oaths that place there jobs on the line, not to tell your secrets.
I view everyone as different, and I do my best to give them all a chance. I can not see why I would base something that one person did to completely rule out another person.
-NK
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