To Further my Understanding on my Agitation

Women. Some of the things that they do just agitate me. Here is the list in no real order.

1) Date assholes.
2) Stay with and/or protect men that beat them.
3) Allow a past relationship to directly effect relationships before they start.
4) Look down on themselves.
5) Refusing to answer clarification questions that I have about their rejection of a date.

One of the largest things about this list is that I have yet to find one women that does not fit into one of the categories. The second thing is that I have found many women that fit into many or all of the categories.

Yesterday on my attempt to go to the movies I asked a girl that had expressed only a want to be friends because she did not want to date anyone for a long time. 'Well I am am sort of back with...' Anger pumped through my veins. The only thing that I know about this man is that he dumped her for reasons she either did not know or did not want to express to me. The reason that I am angry is because she either lied to me or was in fact hurt to the point where dating was not an option. I can not logically fathom why a human would instead of going on a date with a new person choose to go back into a relationship with someone that had left them.

Maybe I am have not had enough experience to understand what is going on in that situation but that is one of the reasons that I am so pissed that it happened. Because this man hurt her so much I could not further my understanding of dating, and am therefor still very lost when it comes to the understanding of this situation.

Here I will in detail express what a date means to me in hopes to make it a standard in the way people look at dating:

A date is the social exchange of two single individuals. The goal of the date is to better understand the individuality of each person, both to themselves and to the other person.

I want people to stop asking 'Does he/she like me?' and start asking 'Do I like me?' People like other people or they do not. So to look as it being a bad date because the person never called you back is a waste of time, they where not interested. Their non interest may mean that you need to review what happened and see if there was anything that you might have done that you would not normally do. If you find nothing that you would not do any day of the week move on. If you did something that you would not normally do, make sure you do not do it again when you move on.

Dating has nothing to do with how hard it is to connect with another person, it is a tool to understand more about yourself and the traits of a desired partner. And the success of a date is not merited on whether or not you made it to the bedroom. Why does allowing someone else talking you into having sex a desired trait? Personally if I can talk someone I just meant into having sex, it really does not matter how good the sex was, because I could never trust that women enough to merry her.

My hope for any reader male or female, is that they will look at the relationships they are in and discuss concerns with either their lovers or with a trusted third party. Or for a person that is single to clean up a bit throw on some nice clothes and ask someone out to a well light public area to discuss random topics over a meal or non-alcoholic beverage. If the date does not take a liking to you then you are not compatible, time to move on. You do not have to settle for someone, you do not have to change yourself for someone, you do not have to have meaningless sex with someone, you do not have to feel bad when they do not call, but you must go on a date and find things out about yourself that you can not find out in non-date situations.

-NK